Trying to get pregnant - what to do
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Lopa, 32 [Female]

I’ve been married for 5 years to a wonderful man, we both have great jobs but one thing is missing in our lives – a child. We’ve been trying to get pregnant for 2 years and have been unsuccessful. The non-stop questions from intrusive aunties, in-laws and parents have made me feel guilty, inadequate and a failure. Questions like “you are just stressed – you need to stop working so hard and concentrate on having kids”, or “you need to try harder” and “you should have started when you were younger”. Why can’t I conceive when there are so many people out there, that don’t even want to get pregnant, with child? For two years this was going through this in my head.  
 
Finally, I talked about this ‘problem’ with a friend of mine who had two kids and she told me, to my surprise, that she went through the same thing. She researched infertility on the internet and saw that there were things you could do to resolve the problem. . She made an appointment with a fertility specialist and had various tests performed on her. After receiving treatment, she got pregnant.  
 
The next week I made an appointment with a fertility specialist. I was relieved that the doctor immediately started testing my husband and I but she was so cold and non-responsive I still felt guilty and ashamed of talking about my “problem”. I quickly changed doctors and to our relief, felt much more comfortable. Our new doctor explained to us possible reasons for infertility and shared with us that so many couples go through this and we were not alone. We are now going through tests and our doctor assured that with patience, we have a very good change that we will eventually become pregnant. My husband and I feel much better now that we know the facts and are doing everything we can to deal with infertility.

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